News and Media
Selected news articles, blog posts, media interviews, and lectures
December 2021: TED
Diana gave their first TED talk! WATCH NOW: https://www.ted.com/talks/diana_adams_the_concept_of_chosen_family_and_why_us_laws_should_protect_it
Big idea: Laws should protect all forms of family — including “chosen family” (family we aren’t biologically related to) — and not just nuclear family.
Why? The majority of people in the US are not living in nuclear families with a spouse and kids — yet this is treated like it’s a bad thing. As a divorce lawyer, Diana Adams knows that marriage comes with more than a thousand benefits under federal law, from health insurance to better tax rates. “Our laws should move away from the idea that there is only one ideal family form and value all families as they exist,” says Adams. Advocating for more inclusive laws that also support LGBTQIA, polyamorous triads or quads, co-parents and domestic partnerships, Adams explains how a more expansive view of family would strengthen all relationships. This belief is why they founded the nonprofit Chosen Family Law Center, which works to change the law so it protects the entire spectrum of what a family could look like. “My definition of family is people committed to being there for each other no matter what,” Adams says.
March 22, 2021: The New Yorker: "How Polyamorists and Polygamists Are Challenging Family Norms"
From opposite sides of the culture, parallel campaigns for legal recognition may soon make multiple-partner marriages as unremarkable as same-sex marriages.
This New Yorker article by Andrew Solomon features our Senior Associate Attorney Andy Izenson and their family.
September 22, 2020: The Atlantic
Diana Adams is not only the founder and Principal Attorney at Diana Adams Law & Mediation, PLLC, they are also the founder and Executive Director of the not-for-profit Chosen Family Law Center. Diana was interviewed by The Atlantic about their work at CFLC for this article on 3-parent families:
https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2020/09/how-build-three-parent-family-david-jay/616421/
July 30, 2020: Georgia Public Broadcasting (PBS/NPR)
Senior Associate Attorney Andy Izenson discusses legal implications of X Markers for nonbinary clients:
Nonbinary Georgians Raise Concerns, Questions As Other States Offer Legal Recognition
July 23, 2020: Psychology Today
Legal Protections for People in Polyamorous Relationships
"During her decades serving as a legal advocate for families of sex and gender minorities, Adams has witnessed what the lack of legal protections can do to families who are left vulnerable to stigma and discrimination. “All families deserve the support of legal stability and recognition, including the many polyamorous partners among our clients and communities. Many in polyamorous relationships will now benefit from health insurance coverage through their partners, which is essential especially in these times of COVID-19. Ultimately, we shouldn't need to depend upon our employers or relationships for health insurance, but while that is our American system, those in polyamorous relationships shouldn't lack health insurance coverage because some disapprove of their relationship configuration.”
While this small step towards legal protection is enforceable only within a highly localized area, it is nevertheless significant. When cities enact ordinances such as these at the local level, it can serve to inspire others to consider and perhaps even craft similar protections of their citizens. Adams concludes, “At Chosen Family Law Center, we plan to introduce similar domestic partnership ordinances in progressive cities, and welcome local advocates to get in touch for support and collaboration. Somerville is just the beginning of a movement for partnership protections for polyamorous and multi-parent families.”
July 1, 2020: New York Times
Our Senior Associate Attorney Andy Izenson, who is also Senior Legal Director for Chosen Family Law Center, was interviewed by the NYT regarding the Somerville, MA Poly Families ordinance:
https://www.nytimes.com/2020/07/01/us/somerville-polyamorous-domestic-partnership.html
"Andy Izenson, a lawyer with the Chosen Family Law Center, a nonprofit organization that provides legal services to polyamorous and other nontraditional families, said the ordinance could be put to a judicial test if health insurance companies reject the city’s more expansive definition of domestic partnership. It could also run into resistance from conservatives, as same-sex marriage did in 2015.
Or it could, as he put it, “fly under the radar.”
“When one area does it, and it serves as a test case, and legislators see that the town or county has not had a culture war implosion,” he said, “that’s how things spread.”
July 1, 2020: Wicked Local on the Sommerville, MA Poly Families Ordinance
https://somerville.wickedlocal.com/news/20200701/somerville-recognizes-polyamorous-domestic-partnerships “I think it’s pretty amazing – strategies like this are the best chance we have of moving towards a legal understanding of family that’s as comprehensive as it needs to be to serve all families,” said Izenson. “I’ve seen a few other small-scale or local entities that have taken steps towards recognizing that relationships between adults are not only between two adults, but this is the first time I have seen this strategy brought to fruition.” Izenson noted states recognizing third-parent adoptions as action that is close to offering broader rights to families, but pointed out that most gains in “marriage equality” have all been carefully defined as between two people.“ There’s a reflexive flinch away from families including more than two partners,” they said.
SAVAGE LOVE: Diana has been a guest on Dan Savage’s “Savage Love” podcast several times:
May 19,2020: "IT'S NOT EASY BEING POLY... "
On this Savage Lovecast Magnum, Dan Savage & Diana had a lively talk about polyamory challenges during the pandemic! Hierarchy pain as some partners are in/some out for quarantine, strategies for being in a rough roommate situation with an ex, & as usual, a smackdown on dishonesty in 'ethical' nonmonogamy!
https://www.savagelovecast.com/episodes/708
April 14, 2015: “IT'S POLY COCKTAIL TIME!”
https://www.savagelovecast.com/episodes/442#.XJjQLNFG2Rs
September 30, 2014: “WHAT DOES ANN LANDERS' DAUGHTER THINK ABOUT TANTRIC SEX?” https://www.savagelovecast.com/episodes/414#.XJjQZdFG2Rs
April 1, 2014: “DAD, WHOSE PANTIES ARE THESE?”
https://www.savagelovecast.com/episodes/388#.XJjQeNFG2Rs
January 7, 2014: “DO EX-GIRLFRIENDS MAKE GOOD UNICORNS?”
https://www.savagelovecast.com/episodes/376#.XJjQhtFG2Rs
October 24, 2019: CBS News
Diana was interviewed about our legal practice as part of a CBSN Originals 23-minute documentary on consensually non-monogamous partnerships and families: Speaking Frankly: Non-monogamy.
Following that, Diana had a one-on-one interview with CBS news anchor Tanya Rivero to more fully discuss the challenges for non-monogamous and LGBTQ+ families, including child custody, immigration and health insurance. You can view that interview here: Diana Adams on “Legal Hurdles in Non-Monogamous Relationships” or below!
July 4, 2019: Stuff Mom Never Told You
Diana appeared on the “STUFF MOM NEVER TOLD YOU” podcast to discuss bisexuality:
June 20, 2019: Why I Decided To Get NonMarried
Nancy Einhart wrote about working with Diana as her lawyer to create a nonmarital Cohabitation Agreement, and the differences between that and getting married, for PopSugar:
https://www.popsugar.co.uk/love/What-Cohabitation-Agreement-46298545
May 10, 2019: Diana writes on #MeToo: A Communication Revolution
https://medium.com/@diana_76680/metoo-a-communication-revolution-dd8e8fd3be59
April 18, 2019: Diana writes “LIKE A BOSS: 5 Ways to Unlearn Female Politeness & Fast-Track Your Career”
April 8, 2019: A Millennial's Guide to Saving the World Redefining Family, Marriage & Feminism
Diana Adams is an attorney, mediator, speaker and social justice activist. Deciding early on that she wanted her work to be meaningful and something that she could see tangible results of within her lifetime, she decided to represent those in non-traditional/chosen family structures. Our conversation touches on the history of marriage, the social construction of traditional, nuclear families + the nature of feminism & what it means to be a courageous woman. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/17-redefining-family-marriage-feminism-diana-adams/id1439745707?i=1000434462396
September/October 2018: Andy on Radio Kingston
Associate Attorney Andy Izenson was part of a live panel and community event hosted by Radio Kingston, "MeToo Kingston: A Conversation on Sexual Harassment," about sexual harassment and violence. Andy spoke about Restorative and Transformative Justice, which we are actively engaged in as a firm. The full panel discussion is here (facebook live); Andy’s speaking part begins at 02:15.
Andy was also a guest on Radio Kingston on Friday, October 5th to discuss the confirmation of Kavanaugh’s Supreme Court nomination. You can listen to the whole interview here: https://radiokingston.org/en/broadcast/source-hillary-harvey/episodes/andy-izenson
July 2018: Andy on The Intimacy Dojo
Andy spoke with Cathy Vartuli from www.TheIntimacyDojo.com about co-leading “No Daddies, No Masters: D/s and Power Play as Anarchist and Access Intimacy” with Aida Manduley, MSW, Roo Khan, and Kate D’Adamo, at the 2018 Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit. Watch and listen here! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9U1jfkgAEok&feature=youtu.be
July 2018: Andy on SexGetsReal
Andy Izenson spoke with Dawn Serra on the podcast @SexGetsReal about community, resilience, and masculinity. Listen here: http://sexgetsreal.com/ep221
July 2018: Diana writes on #MeToo
Diana published an article along with the Omega Institute entitled “Moving Forward from #MeToo: A Revolution in Communication:”Lawyer and activist Diana Adams shares how learning the "soft skills" of empowered communication will keep women safer and happier. The #MeToo movement caused a cultural revelation about the prevalence of sexual harassment and assault against women. #MeToo is a teachable moment wherein we can learn how to better communicate about sex and consent as individuals and as a society. We can learn to better advocate for our needs and desires, and create a culture that will hear each of us...Read the whole article HERE.
February 2018: Tangentially Speaking
Diana was a guest on Chris Ryan’s Podcast “Tangentially Speaking” to discuss her work as an LGBTQ lawyer and civil rights activist:
January 2018: Andy on medium.com
Andy wrote a popular piece for medium.com about transformative justice that addresses some of the motivation for the work we've been doing in this realm:
Why It's Painful and Scary To Talk About Transformative Justice, and Why It's Time
October 2017: Diana in MONOGAMISH (Film)
MONGAMISH: the 2017 documentary film Monogamish is about Director Tao Ruspoli’s journey with consensual nonmonogamy. Diana appears as an expert in the film speaking on legal issues for nonmonogamous families, the coercion into marital relationships, and the movement beyond the nuclear family, along with luminary thinkers including her heroes Esther Perel, Dan Savage, and Christopher Ryan.
September 2017: Diana on the Grow Big Always podcast
Diana was honored to be a guest on the Grow Big Always podcast with Sam Lawrence
“This heart-melting lawyer will make you rethink non-traditional love."
August 2017: Diana on the Multiamory podcast
Diana was a guest on the Multiamory podcast to discuss Legal Protections for Polyamorous Families.
June 2017: The New York Times
Diana was interviewed by the NYT for a June 20, 2017 article on Same-Sex Parenting:
Same-Sex Parents Still Face Legal Complications
May 2017: Diana Interviewed in Psychology Today
Diana was interviewed by Psychology Today as part of an installment regarding Child Custody and Polyamorous Families:
February 2017: Radio New Zealand
Diana was a guest on Radio New Zealand, where she answered questions about LGBTQ law and nontraditional families in the U.S. You can listen to the full live interview here: http://www.radionz.co.nz/national/programmes/nights/audio/201832339/diana-adams-family-law-for-nontraditional-families
January 2017: UCLA Law School
On January 23, 2017 Diana presented at the University of California, Los Angeles Law School on “How to Protect LGBTQ & Nontraditional Families Under Threat.” She discussed current LGBTQ and nontraditional family law issues, predicted what to expect under the Trump administration, and gave suggestions on how both lawyers and non-lawyers can support the community over the next four years. It has been well-received online internationally as a resource for activists and lawyers. You can view the full recorded guest lecture here.
December 2016: Bloomberg.com interview with Diana Adams
Diana was interviewed for a piece in Bloomberg Businessweek, speaking on how triads (or configurations of more than 2) can plan finances, and legally protect themselves beyond the traditional couple: How Couples Do Money (Bloomberg.com)
November 2016: VICE interview with Diana Adams
Diana was interviewed by VICE about her work representing poly/kinky/trans parents in custody cases & the bias they face. Notice the illustration at the top of the article, which may perpetuate the very stereotypes we try to combat.
How Kinky and Non-Traditional Parents are Punished by Family Courts (VICE.com)
October 2016: “After Marriage" Conference video with Andy Izenson
Andy presented at the “After Marriage Conference: The Future of LGBTQ Politics and Scholarship” at the John Jay College of Criminal Justice in NYC as part of panel on “Where Do We Go From Here? A Roundtable Discussion on Future Fronts in the Battles for Family Diversity." Watch the video here .
May 2016: Woodhull Freedom Foundation Guest Blog Post by Andy Izenson
April 2016: NPR interview with Diana Adams
For Couples Skipping The Ring, It Pays To Plot Out Finances
April 2016: Sex for Smart People podcast interview with Andy Izenson
Associate Attorney Andy Izenson was interviewed by Stephanie Ryan Johnstone for the Sex for Smart People podcast:
Get Rid of the Idea That Sex Can Be Easy
February 2016: Washington Post interview with Diana Adams
A therapist, a lawyer, and a sex educator answer our questions about polyamory
November 2015: VICE Magazine Interview with Diana Adams
Death Is Way More Complicated When You’re Polyamorous
July 2015: Huffington Post interview with Associate Attorney Andy Izenson
Polyamorous Attorney Agrees SCOTUS Decision Could Lead to Group Marriage
June 2015: Reason Magazine article by Diana Adams
February 19, 2014: The Atlantic: “Up for Polyamory? Creating Alternatives to Marriage”
How one lawyer helps those, like her, in non-traditional relationships: https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2014/02/up-for-polyamory-creating-alternatives-to-marriage/283920/
September 2013: Diana on "Special Arrangements" Panel
Diana was thrilled to be on the Polyamory Experts Speak On Non-Monogamy - "Special Arrangements" Discussion Panel: "Special Arrangements: The Changing Face of the 21st Century Relationship" discussing non-monogamy and polyamory with Sunny Bates (moderator), Reid Mihalko of http://ReidAboutSex.com, and Esther Perel of http://www.EstherPerel.com/.
Watch the full video here! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4iDluKrMvYw
2012: Healing Shame: Interview for Woodhull Sexual Freedom Alliance
Making Sense of Sex interview of Reid Mihalko by Diana Adams, discussing Reid's work, dealing with societal shame about sexuality, touch starvation, etc. This video is a collaboration between Sex Crimes Cabaret and Woodhull Sexual Freedom Alliance.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q_NEJYqJrXU
2012 Woodhull SFA interview with Diana Adams:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C-pWSo_g-PE
2011: Sexual Freedom Day 2011 talk for Woodhull SFA: Sexual Freedom as it Relates to Family Policy
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SzXVb1yPYm8
2009: MTV True Life: “I Am Polyamorous” episode with Diana Adams
http://www.mtv.com/episodes/9xp1nv/true-life-i-m-polyamorous-seasn-15-ep-20
2008: New York Times Article on Polyamory: “Hopelessly Devoted to You, and You, and You”
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